“They’d say, ‘Play with my thing and I give you a candy.’”

When Oscar was a boy he regularly returned to Tijuana to see his mother, and he had his first sexual experience there when he was 10. “I was on the streets most of the time playing around, and there were a lot of old guys,” he remembered. “They’d say, ‘Play with my thing and I’ll give you a candy.’ ” Back in Wisconsin, he continued to trade sex with older men for treats and money. “It was normal to me.”